The1stWife ( Guide #58832) posted at 1:22 PM on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2025
Cheaters will always find the time and find a way to make it happen
So true.
Survived two affairs and brink of Divorce. Happily reconciled. 12 years out from Dday. Reconciliation takes two committed people to be successful.
Copingmybest ( member #78962) posted at 5:07 PM on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2025
My WW only worked part time while I worked full time + trying to pay for two boys in college. It was easy for her to get away while I was working to have her fun.
Sharkman ( member #56818) posted at 2:34 AM on Thursday, July 24th, 2025
Once you find a spouse cheating you know with 100% certainty - without a single shadow of doubt - that they love themselves more than they love their spouses and kids. That’s where they find the time.
fareast ( Moderator #61555) posted at 3:42 AM on Thursday, July 24th, 2025
At one time I worked as general counsel for a large educational institution. On my first week on the job, on a very hot day the air conditioning went out in a large administration building and the staff all walked off of the job. In my attempts to locate the building director responsible for the staff who walked out, I was told by my staff, that he would be back to work in the afternoon, but this was the day when he and the librarian (both married) got a hotel room over an extended lunch. Everyone knew and everyone covered for them. Cheaters will find a way to make time. They were terminated shortly thereafter.
Never bother with things in your rearview mirror. Your best days are on the road in front of you.
lizziej ( member #55651) posted at 6:22 PM on Thursday, July 24th, 2025
The cheater finds the time by stealing it from you.
THIS ^^^
I cried this morning after realizing a new way my husband had stolen time from me. I was dusabqled for 3 years until dec 2025. He was my caregiver. I could not shower myself. I usually got one shower a week because he did.so much I didn't want to ask foe more. I would often get horrible painful rashes because of not showering often enough. smetimes I had to ask several times im a day he was supposed to shower me and sat in my jammies all day or even for multiple days waiting for him to have time. Yea he took care of business and things around the house, BUT he apparently found the time to maaturbate to porn or chat eith other women instead of showering me mite than once a week. He eas oblivious to the fact that this stole time from me.
He would steal time and attention feom me when we were watching t.v. on together by being on his phone constantly, some of those times he eas chatting with random women. Or when I was away he would respond to me with onla thumbs up text to me but a minute later have an ongoing conversation and ask for a video call with them but no me.
Once you find a spouse cheating you know with 100% certainty - without a single shadow of doubt - that they love themselves more than they love their spouses and kids. That’s where they find the time
Oh heck no, here we go again this time with video :(.... the behaviour all makes sense now, he was a porn addict for 25 years.
